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- Countless studies have shown the ways our parents’ behavior shape our own habits.
- If your mother was constantly juggling multiple jobs, you are likely to suffer from stress. If your parents set high expectations for you, you were more likely to perform better in school.
- Here are 10 ways your parents shaped who you are today.
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Whether your parents were your best friends or you barely knew them, your relationship with Mom and Dad had an impact on who you are today.
At least that’s what Sigmund Freud said when he theorized that our adult personality develops from early childhood experiences, an insight empirically tested by attachment theory and developmental psychology through the 20th century up until today.
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Countless studies and extensive clinical research has found links between your parents’ behavior during childhood and how you act as an adult. If your mother was constantly juggling multiple jobs, you are likely to suffer from stress. If your parents set high expectations for you, you were more likely to perform better in school.
Here are 10 ways your parents’ behavior impacted who you are:
If your parents made you do chores, you likely take on tasks independently.
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If your parents constantly berated you for not making your bed, they were actually doing you a favor.
Children who grow up doing chores take more responsibility at work instead of waiting for tasks to get assigned to them, according to Julie Lythcott-Haims, former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford University and author of "How to Raise an Adult." They also better collaborate with their coworkers and can better empathize with others.
Doing your chores as a kid can even lead to being more happy down the road, a Harvard grant study that followed people for over 75 years found.
"By making them do chores — taking out the garbage, doing their own laundry — they realize, ‘I have to do the work of life in order to be part of life,’" Lythcott-Haims previously told Business Insider. "It’s not just about me and what I need in this moment, but that I’m part of an ecosystem. I’m part of a family. I’m part of a workplace."
If your parents taught you social skills, you’re were more likely to get a college degree and a high-paying job.
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A study tracking more than 700 American children over 20 years found that when parents taught their young kids social skills, like how to be helpful or cooperative with their peers, they were more likely to earn a college degree and have a full-time job by 25.
Those without social skills were more likely to drink and get arrested.
If your parents told you white lies, it may have led to you to have issues trusting others in adulthood.
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Parents who lied to children to prevent them from getting hurt or needing to have difficult conversations may have done more harm than good.
"Parents can inadvertently sabotage their relationship with their kids through telling white lies meant to protect their kids from the realities of life that may be scary," psychiatrist Dr. Carole Lieberman told INSIDER. "When kids find out the truth, they may feel [like they] can’t trust their parents to keep them safe."
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